Welcome to Episode 100 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with psychologist Dr. Todd Bowman as we explore bipolar mood disorder.

Dr. Bowman is the Associate Professor of Counseling at Indiana Wesleyan University. He is an Adjunct Professor for Human Sexuality at Nazarene Theological Seminary. He is an Adjunct Professor of the Intro to Psychology at Nazarene Bible College. He also is an evaluating psychologist for assessing seminary applicants for seminaries.

Our conversation takes us into the following:

* The difference between a personality disorder and a mood disorder.

* How mood disorders are related to depressive disorders.

* How lifestyle changes (eating, sleeping, exercise…) can be as effective as antidepressants.

* What an emotional hangover is.

* How mood disorders have a strong underpinning of genetic predisposition.

* Diagnosable features of bipolar mood disorder.

* How some people with exhausted dopamine circuits have been misdiagnosed as bipolar.

* How to engage people who present with bipolar mood disorder.

* How bipolar mood disorder is often leveraged for inappropriately excusing behavior.

* How free will is about initial choices in a deep process, not just the powerless moments of an overwhelmed system.

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Welcome to Episode 99 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with psychologist Dr. Todd Bowman as we continue to catch up and talk about an uptick in client issues.

Dr. Bowman is the Associate Professor of Counseling at Indiana Wesleyan University. He is an Adjunct Professor for Human Sexuality at Nazarene Theological Seminary. He is an Adjunct Professor of the Intro to Psychology at Nazarene Bible College. He also is an evaluating psychologist for assessing seminary applicants for seminaries.

Our conversation takes us into the following:

* The difference between a personality disorder and a mood disorder.

* Whether personality disorders are biological/genetic or spawned from interpersonal wounds.

* What Borderline Personality Disorder is and many of the features it presents.

* How childhood traumatic experiences in our stories generate personality disorders.

* How the greatest influence to forming our personalities are probably interpersonal negligence and trauma, rather than genetics.

* What happens in the womb in prenatal formations of a baby’s brain.

* Patrick’s childhood story of growing up with a mom with diagnosable Borderline Personality Disorder.

* How difficult it is for people with personality disorders to have capacity for self-reflection and self-awareness.

* How we will begin to feel something is “off” in our own bodies when interacting with people with personality disorders.

* Why self-differentiation and boundaries are key to staying engaged with people with personality disorders.

* Therapies that a person with Borderline Personality Disorder can do to move to health and flourishing.

* How to functionally lead people who show markers of Borderline Personality Disorder.

Recommended book: Stop Walking on Eggshells – Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder (Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger)

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Welcome to Episode 98 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. Today’s conversation is with psychologist Dr. Todd Bowman as we catch up and talk about an uptick in client issues.

Dr. Bowman is the Associate Professor of Counseling at Indiana Wesleyan University. He is an Adjunct Professor for Human Sexuality at Nazarene Theological Seminary. He is an Adjunct Professor of the Intro to Psychology at Nazarene Bible College. He also is an evaluating psychologist for assessing seminary applicants for seminaries.

Our conversation takes us into the following:

* How the pandemic has created increased disruptions of flow.

* What we can do to turn off the negativity and disruptions.

* The importance of being curious rather than judgmental.

* The impact of pandemic, political, and racial unrest issues.

* Common issues that are showing up in marriage, parenting, and overall well-being.

* Cognitive/rational issues that are increasing.

* Affective/emotional issues that are increasing.

* Biological/physical issues that are increasing.

* What is happening to our kids, families, and churches from experiences during the pandemic.

* The culture’s avoidance of naming things “trauma”.

* How grief, anxiety, and anger has taken a toll on life.

* Dopamine experiences of pleasure and pain in opponent process theory.

* Post orgasmic experiences in marriages where sex is not bonding.

* How interpersonal bonding helps resolve dopamine drops.

* Common solutions and treatments given to clients for management.

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Today’s episode takes us into the following:

* How anxiety drives the good, the bad, and the ugly in every relationship and system.

* A Biblical perspective of anxiety as a driver of both functional and dysfunctional behavior.

* Review of self-differentiation and giving context to leadership challenges.

* How to stay steady after you stand up and how to hold onto who you really are, even with intense reactivity from the group or system.

* How holding onto yourself involves four basic activities.

* The importance of prioritizing growth over perfection and flawlessness.

* The power of loving yourself with radical acceptance, even though others are judging you.

* How to avoid a conflict of wills through vulnerability of showing up, without needing to change anyone else.

* Using breathing and physical techniques to calm the nervous system.

* Practicing reframing painful moments through awareness and story exercises.

* Zooming out and externalizing to be able to give reactive relationships the compassion you desire.

* The purpose and power of boundaries, giving consequences to be your best self, not to control others.

* Learning to evaluate past painful moments by engaging a crash site analysis.

* The practice of healthy, appropriate grieving when losses happen, to prepare our hearts for the next time we encounter intense reactivity.

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Welcome to Episode 96 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. In today’s episode Patrick is continuing with one of the most important factors for successful leaders, self-differentiation. The past 4 episodes have focused on these concepts, starting with episode 92 (The Leader’s Kryptonite: Emotional Fusion Versus Differentiation) giving the context for the series. If you have wondered why you can’t seem to get the ‘wins’ you work so hard for, even after training with conferences, consultants, books, podcasts, and mentors, this episode series is for you!

Today’s episode takes us into the following:

* Review of self-differentiation and giving context to leadership challenges.

* Identifying overt/conscious and covert/unconscious anxieties in teammates and organizations.

* A short review of the 3 components to mature in self-definition or identity: A-R-T.

* How standing up and showing up really is having both individuation and connection.

* The rewards of standing up with who we really are versus the costs of not standing up with who we really are.

* The fears that keep us stuck in hiddenness.

* Standing up with assertiveness versus aggressiveness.

* Scripture references for standing up with individuation and connection.

* Exploration of how to stand up when it is uncomfortable.

* What courage is and how to engage it.

* How to prepare for an interaction that requires you to stand up.

* How skills are to help manage our own anxieties, not control the other’s.

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Welcome to Episode 95 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. In today’s episode Patrick is continuing with one of the most important factors for successful leaders, self-differentiation. The past 3 episodes have focused on these concepts, starting with episode 92 (The Leader’s Kryptonite: Emotional Fusion Versus Differentiation) giving the context for the series. If you have wondered why you can’t seem to get the ‘wins’ you work so hard for, even after training with conferences, consultants, books, podcasts, and mentors, this episode series is for you!

Episode 95 takes us into the following:

* Review of self-differentiation and giving context to leadership challenges.

* Continued exploration of the 3 components to mature in self-definition or identity: A-R-T.

* Review of awareness and responsibility (AR of ART) as the first two components of self-definition or identity.

* Revealing the third component of self-definition or identity: truth.

* How truth is about honoring your own values, perspectives, opinions, convictions, interpretations, beliefs, desires, and goals.

* How identity is the ability to know and commit to what you believe is true, not being closed to opposing ideas, or being inflexible.

* How identity is about the right to define yourself, define your own thoughts and beliefs, and to clarify what it means to be yourself.

* How identity empowers you to know what you think is important, what is valuable, and what you believe to be moral and true.

* How you come to know what is true: objectivity versus subjectivity.

* Exploration of free moral agency as God’s gift to choose what you believe is true.

* How emotions and feelings are beneficial gifts to serve your awareness, but how they are unreliable sources to anchor you in truth.

* The benefit of Scripture as an authoritative source for truth.

* How Biblical identity is not your unwilling acceptance of God’s forced enmeshment, but your willing acceptance in pursuit of truth.

* Biblical texts to reinforce ideas and benefits of truth around emotional states.

* Exercises to build your truth-muscles and instincts.

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Welcome to Episode #94 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. In today’s episode Patrick is continuing with one of the most important factors for successful leaders: differentiation. Self-differentiation is a human flourishing code cracker. If you have wondered why you can’t seem to get the ‘wins’ you work so hard for, even after training with conferences, consultants, books, podcasts, and mentors, this episode is for you!

This episode takes us into the following:

* Review of Dr. Murray Bowen’s Systems Theory.

* Sharing of quotes from Pastor Steve Cuss’s work about Systems Theory from his book, Managing Leadership Anxiety: Yours and Theirs.

* Discussion regarding the distinctions between enmeshment/fusion, detachment/distance and self-differentiation.

* Continued exploration of the 5 components to mature in self-differentiation: A-R-T-S-Y.

* Exploration of the ART (awareness, responsibility, and truth) of self-definition and emotional identity.

* Biblical texts to reinforce ideas of intentional responsibility around emotional states.

* How self-awareness is a critical component of identity, but without responsibility it makes a person entitled, self-absorbed, and toxic.

* How God is looking for growth and maturity, rather than flawlessness and perfectionism.

* How self-definition comes from within, not by being adaptive to other’s desires, emotions, and projections.

* Examination of pro-depressive circuits and empowerment (dopamine) circuits from Dr. Andrew Huberman’s work, a neuroscientist from Stanford University.

* Great exercises to build the responsibility muscles and instincts.

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Welcome to Episode #93 of the Red Ink Revival Leadership Podcast. In today’s episode Patrick is continuing with one of the most important factors for successful leaders, differentiation. Self-differentiation is a human flourishing code cracker. If you have wondered why you can’t seem to get the ‘wins’ you work so hard for, even after training with conferences, consultants, books, podcasts, and mentors, this episode is for you!

This episode takes us into the following:

* We review Dr. Murray Bowen’s Family Systems Theory applied to restoring families.

* We share how Edwin Friedman’s famous book, A Failure of Nerve, takes Family Systems Theory and applies it to organizations, leaders, and organizational flourishing.

* We show the Biblical foundations of identity and self-differentiation.

* We begin looking at 5 components to mature in self-differentiation: A-R-T-S-Y.

* We see how our identity is matured by awareness, responsibility, and transparent truth.

* We learn how our identity was originally formed through interpersonal neurobiological interactions with our family of origin.

* We look at how to grow in self-awareness.

* We discuss the 3 R’s of practicing awareness: 1) Recalling grievance memories, 2) Reflecting on event feelings, and 3) Recognizing associated narratives and meanings.

* We present the “Feelings Wheel” as a tool to discover various feeling states.

* We walk through how an event turns into an emotional experience, then a looping narrative script, then an emotional meaning around our self.

* We see how disputing false interpretations gives new meaning and relieves anxiety.

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